Today I’d like to share Rachel’s story. These are her words just edited for grammar and spelling. Thank you Rachel for sharing your beautiful story. You truly are an amazing woman.
In 1999, my mother had a stroke at work. She was nurse. After her stroke, her body started to do strange things. The doctors did some tests but because lupus is so hard to diagnose it took a long time to finally come to the conclusion that it was lupus. She had a sore that they biopsied which was how they found out it was lupus And that is when the battle began.
She went from being a hard working nurse, wife, mother and grandmother to a woman who was so tired at times she could not get out of bed . She did not look sick so most people did not seem to think she was really sick. As time went by she was in and out of the hospital too many times to count. Her hair fell out, she had sores all over her skin, and she was always sick with something.The time came that she had to stop working. It was really sad because she loved her work so much. She loved helping sick people and it broke her heart to stop. But she had to.
After that things got even worse. Eight years into this disease, I started taking care of her and she had a basket of meds a mile high. She needed help with showering and dressing. I had to beg her to eat as she was losing weight fast. She was my mother and best friend and she had taken care of me my whole life.
In the end my stepfather came to me and said he was never home and I needed to either come live with them and take care of her or take her home with me, or we would put her in a nursing home. Although I worked, I brought her home. By this point, her mind was going because of the drugs and the illness, so I took care of her. I’m glad I did because I got to be a part of the last days of this amazing woman’s life. My body was hurting and I was tired but there was no time to think of me, only her and all I had to do.
Two years ago and after a twelve year long fight I held that amazing women’s hand as she took her last breath. She was free now. No more pain. No more lonely days as the world went on with their life while she could no longer keep up. Just peace for her which she had begged for. As much as it hurt I had to move on. She is in my heart always.
Now it was time to deal with my kidney’s problems that I believed I had gotten from my father. The doctors could not figure out why my kidneys where going bad. After almost three years, I got a sore. I had lupus as I was taking of my mother. I was suffering from the same thing, I just did not know it. After taking care of my mom with lupus, knowing what is to come, I am not sure if that is a blessing or a curse, but I would not change it for anything. My story is still being told but now her story has been told and may help someone else. God bless all who have this mysterious disease. I pray this helps someone as it helped me to tell it.
If anyone else has a special story that they would like posted, please send it to me, and I will edit and share it. You never know whose life you will touch.